There was a blog floating around about how there should be an "age limit" for marriage. I couldn't believe what I was reading when I read it. Adam and I got married when we were both 21 years old. He was already in the Marine Corps for three years. Two deployments down & countless field ops. He was the most mature person I had ever met in my life. He had to be though, his job required him too. I was on school number 3 and still had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. Each school I was studying something different.(I actually didn't figure out what I wanted to do until AFTER we were married) The only thing that I was certain of in my life was how much I loved Adam, and how much he meant to me. Living my life without him just didn't seem like an option to me. I knew that many people would think that we were crazy for getting married so young, but we didn't care. We took that leap of faith and we made that commitment. Because well, IT'S OUR LIFE. We are the ones who have to live with the decisions that we make. We are the ones who go to bed at night and wake up in the morning having to live the life that we laid out for each other. We are the ones that decided that we didn't care what anyone had to say, because we knew that our love for each other was greater than anyone's doubt.
Now, don't get me wrong. I don't think that marriage is for everyone. You have to really be committed to be with someone for the rest of your life. You have to put your spouses wishes and needs ahead of yours because making them happy will make you happy. I promise you that.You have to learn to compromise, even when you don't want too. You have to learn that arguments come with marriage, but walking away isn't a solution. You have to learn that nothing justifies infidelity, nothing. You have to learn how to share your personal space with another person, and learn to become a part of their personal space too. You have to learn that husbands won't clean up after themselves, and you will have to tell them one hundred times to take the garbage out before they throw a fit and actually do it. You will realize that marriage will be the biggest blessing in your life, aside from having children.
But does that mean that if you are under a certain age that you can't do all of that? Absolutely not. Age is but a number, that's it. A number that people use to determine what you can and cannot do. (drive, drink, vote, etc) but marriage shouldn't be one of those. Too many people are focusing on the divorce rate being higher now. Well, news flash, divorce happens when people are married that shouldn't be married. It can happen at ANY age. Just because people got married early does not mean that they will get divorced. Just because people got married when they were "older" doesn't mean they wont get divorced. Divorce will happen regardless of what age people got married, if those two people aren't meant to be married.
But what happened to live and let live? If two people want to jump into a marriage after dating for a couple months, LET THEM BE. They are the ones who have to live with the decisions that they are making. Plus, if they date for 5 years then decided to get married everyone would be happy for them. Well their the same people they were when they started dating, and they wasted 5 years that they could have spent married.
What's everyone so afraid of? You only get one chance to live. Why worry so much about right and wrong? Why over think situations that don't need over thinking? Take that leap of faith. If things don't work out, move on. If they do, well then congrats you are about to embark on an amazing journey.
Stop thinking and Start Living.
xoxox
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